Life According to Deborah Tindle

Life is Your Journey

Being grateful for all of the obstacles in you life is vital. These obstacles strengthen you as your continue with your journey. This life is your own with no apologies and no excuses. No one to rely on, lean on, or blame. The gift of life is yours– and life is an amazing journey. You are, alone, responsible for the quality of your life. The past cannot be changed, forgotten, changed, edited, or erased. The past can only be accepted. So, keep onward with your journey through life, with smiles in your heart and looking ahead with optimism.

Judgments and Perspective

You may know a name or heard what that person has done. Remember that you do not know what that person has been through. Do not be the one to pass judgment or spread rumors. Rumors are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots. Don’t judge. Period. Rise up and be the person who does the listening, without judgment.

Conflict and Blame, Walking Away and Silence

Some people love conflict and love the blame game. Walk away as the battle they are fighting is not with you– it is with themselves. Realize that some people are removed from your life for a reason. So think before you chase after these people. Being strong doesn’t mean fighting the battle. Being strong means being able to walk away with your head held high. Being strong also sometimes means being silent. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. Some people are not even worth your words. Silence is powerful. Those who love to battle don’t expect silence. They expect words, motion, offense / defense, and back / forth. Silence speaks when words cannot. Have strength to walk away– and have strength to stay silent.

Learn from Your Past

The past should be a learning experience, not an everlasting punishment. What is done is done. The past shouldn’t be a burden but a learning experience. Accept your past as it cannot be changed, edited, erased, or forgotten. What defines you is how you RISE after you fall. So, never look back as it distracts from the now. Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you. When something bad happens, you can (1) let it define you -or- (2) let it destroy you -or- (3) let it STRENGTHEN you. When you change the way you look at things (PERSPECTIVE), the things you look at change– which includes your past.

Broken Trust and Facing Truth

Broken Trust? You may forgive that person but you will never trust that person again. Trust is like broken glass– once it is broken, it will never be the same again. But don’t blame the person for disappointing you. Instead, blame yourself for expecting too much from him / her. Further, being a good person does not guarantee that others will be good people too. You only have control over yourself about how you chose to be as a person. And as for the others, you can chose to accept them or walk away.

Words may lie but actions will always tell the truth. Liars are weak– they are not strong enough to face the truth. With actions, someone who won’t lift a finger to call and / or spend time with you, lift five fingers and wave goodbye. Spend time with those that love you unconditionally. Do not waste time on those who only love when conditions are **right** for them.

Only trust those who see three things in you. First: sorrow behind your smile. Second: love being your anger. Third: reason behind your silence.